Guest Post: Six Tips to Help New Parents

6 Tips to Help New Parents

Whether it’s your friend’s first time having a child or your sister delivering her fourth born, figuring out how to be a help instead of a hindrance during those first few days of the baby’s life can be difficult. New parents often feel overwhelmed and exhausted as they adjust to their new role. Help your friend or family member adjust to life with a newborn by following these tips:

Ask

While it’s a simple suggestion, simply asking how you can help can open the door to lending a helping hand. Some new parents want to limit interaction with others during those first few weeks to bond with their newborn while others may welcome opportunities to introduce their new baby to friends and family. From helping with laundry to holding the baby so they can take a nap, new parents may welcome the opportunity to delegate home and childcare related tasks.

Make a Meal

Many parents underestimate the amount of time needed to adjust to having a newborn in the home. Between feeding, naps, and adjusting to a baby’s schedule, many new parents rely solely on takeout to survive those first few months. Take the initiative to make the new parents a home cooked meal. That’s one gesture that isn’t often turned away.

Offer Space

While there’s a lot of excitement and build up prior to the birth of a new baby, many well-wishers don’t realize that there is also a lot of pain, stress, and recovery time for parents following the birth. In trying to understand how their lives will be changed with the new baby, parents often need a couple days or weeks of downtime to adjust to their new schedule and responsibility. To truly help a new mom and dad, offer to come by when it is convenient for them. Don’t assume they are ready for visitors just yet.

Give the Gift of Babysitting

For parents with multiple children, attending to the needs of older children and juggling the demands of a baby can be a challenge. To alleviate the burden of both responsibilities, offer to watch the siblings so that t mom and dad can spend time bonding with their newborn. This also provides siblings with the opportunity to have the undivided attention and time with a relative or family friend. Take the kids to a museum, a zoo, or any age appropriate location that’s fun and hopefully a little tiring. That way, you can not only strengthen bonds with them but provide their parents with a much needed break as well.

Run Errands

A thoughtful way to help out new parents out is to offer to run errands while you’re out around town. Often new parents have a laundry list of places to get to but don’t have the time or energy during those first weeks with their newborn.  Help them out by offering to pick them up food while you’re at the grocery store or offering swing by a friend’s house to pick up a loaned bassinet.

Offer Support, Not Advice

New parents are inundated with advice and suggestions. Though the advice comes from a positive place, it can be defeating and exhausting for new parents who are trying to figure out child rearing on their own. Rather than offer insight and advice, simply offer support for whatever parenting style and ideas they have chosen to embrace.

Being a good friend or family member means more than simply showing up to cuddle with the new baby. It means supporting a new family and nurturing its development and growth. These six tips can help a new mom and dad bond with their newborn and provide much needed relief during the first few weeks of adjusting to life with a newborn.

With over 20 years of experience in the nanny world as an award-winning nanny, agency director, and parenting author, Michelle LaRowe is considered a leading industry expert. A mom herself, she loves to educate parents and nannies on the importance of quality in-home childcare. Find out more by visiting @eNannySource on Twitter. 

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3 Responses

  1. a little help is very much needed at this time for the new mumxxx

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